The eagle soars above the clouds with laser sharp eyes. We say free as a bird. But even the eagle is bound by gravity and how high it can actually soar. The eagle can fly for miles and miles, but will return to its nest. We are like the eagle with unlimited potential in where we go in life and soar above the clouds. But we will always return to our core set of values (the nest). We can change location, direction, career etc. but what does our core say?
Luckily, as humans we can re-write a lot of who we are. Become better people. Serve in a deeper way and capacity to leave a legacy. I’ve said before, I wish for my impact to ripple out like a pebble that has touched the waters surface. But that really begins with me. I have to unbind myself and fight against dysfunctional programming and lies that have ingrained themselves. There are money story lies that I grew up with that my mother would rob Peter to pay Paul. We were always in a financial lie and dysfunction. Or the lie a family “friend” said that I over heard as an early 20 something, I would never own my own home, I would never amount to anything and I would not survive if I lost my mother. Well, my mother passed in 2007, I own my own home and my own car and I am surviving as I raise two beautiful independent women who are writing their own story.
SOAR ABOVE THE CLOUDS
What will it take to soar above the clouds?
Well I believe having personal boundaries that allow for personal growth. Saying “NO” is a complete sentence. As women we feel we need to justify the “NO” – we don’t. No thank you. I’ll pass. My calendar is full, thank you for thinking of me. All ways of saying “NO”.
Loving myself to say “YES” to my unlimited potential and not talk myself out of my own greatness. My experience has been that old tapes will pop into my head of: You won’t make it! That don’t make you money! Pursuing your dreams won’t pay the bills! You need to grow-up and be an adult with a “REAL” job! and on and on the stories and programming go.
Caring for myself enough to say enough. Saying yes to everyone else and their needs has been detrimental to sacredly caring for the magnificence God has placed in me. I cannot pour from an empty cup. One of the most beautiful things I heard was from Lisa Nichols on a video I was watching and she said something to like Love from your saucer and love from your overflow. I have tried to love from an empty cup – and was returned was arrogance, ungratefulness, entitlement and people wanting and sucking more. How on earth can you suck more from a dry vessel? Depletion was not self-loving nor self-caring. Depletion was definitely spiraling into nothingness and hitting a proverbial rock bottom.
NOWHERE BUT UP
When I hit the bottom, I had nowhere to go but up. Well potentially I could have stayed there. It could have got worse. I could have just stayed there and lost my home, lost my car and literally lost everything. A fight kicked in and that’s when I stopped everything.
No, I can’t help you…
No, I don’t want to do…
No, I’m resting today…
No, I am healing and I am not X right now…
Sometimes the healthiest thing we can do is just STOP! You can find the strength inside yourself – JUST STOP:
- DOING – DOING – DOING
- ACCEPTING LIES AND DYSFUNCTION
- ACCEPTING WHAT’S NOT MEANT FOR YOU/ME
- ACCEPTING THE B.S.
- ACCEPTING THE PHONE CALLS/EMAILS/TEXT MESSAGES
- ACCEPTING _______________
- AND START